Does bullying still even exist when you’re an adult?

If you thought bullying only happened at school, then think again…

You will be surprised to know that 40-50% of people say they have been bullied during their working life.

Image taken from www.soulation.org

Image taken from http://www.soulation.org

Shocking isn’t it?

Especially as the number of victims to this abuse is increasing. It is worrying that these issues are not properly dealt with and subsequently just brushed under the carpet.

Bullying doesn’t have to be just physical; if it is happening in your workplace then speak out. It could be that someone is constantly criticising your work, belittling you, making you feel inadequate, embarrassed or shameful.

Although, the outcomes of bullying are continuously publicised, the act of abuse is almost seen as trivial. Here is an example of one of the many tragic bullying cases.

Image taken from gawker.com

Image taken from gawker.com

David Orr a 21 year old began working full time at BT after successfully completing an apprenticeship with the company. After several bullying incidents from the management team and failed actions taken regarding his concerns, sadly, he committed suicide.

Before his death during October 2011 David had stated that he was being bullied by management. However, his worries were ignored. With his mother Michele Millar finally speaking out, she has said BT Openreach continually failed to respond to his concerns.

“It doesn’t matter whether it is in BT or any other workplace, I don’t want any other boy and their family to go through this. I would say to anyone who is being bullied, speak out – tell people about it until somebody listens and somebody does something about it.”

Michele Milliar

With these tragedies heightening, it is important that victims know how to address the issue. If you are being bullied or know someone who is follow encourage them to follow this five point plan.

  1. Acknowledge the problem.
  2. Inform yourself.
  3. Confront constructively.
  4. Keep a diary.
  5. Seek help.

It is important to not forget that a bully is normally jealous or threatened of skills and attributes, they are the ones that are insecure, therefore determined to undermine others. Actions may seem subtle, and it may lead to believing you are just overreacting.

Remember: When conflict arises at work, it should be healthy and creative.

A question for you, have you or someone you know ever experienced bullying as an adult? If so, how did you personally deal with it? Did you speak out, and was action taken?

Human Jaws

I went to the beach today with Mercedes it was 37 degrees! Yes amazing, I’m going to miss this weather!

I hope you are prepared for this story, honestly what an unusual and shit experience to have! I’m livid!

Mercedes and I were sunbathing, as usual I overheated and needed to go into the sea so I put my bikini top back on (living the true Spanish life and going topless) and headed for the sea. There were loads of waves today so I had good fun jumping over them 🙂

This guy then appeared, I would say he was in his thirties, chubs and strangely wearing sunglasses. He started jumping over the waves like a wally, which I found quite amusing to begin with.  I was then busy trying to do my cheer jumps in the water haha when I noticed that Mercedes had swam off.  She used to swim competitively, so she is fast! I started to swim out to her, when a ball hit my arm, I turned around and of course it was the weirdo from before, I threw the ball back to him and he threw it back to me again…what is this? are we playing a game of catch now?!? So, I tried my best to swim to Mercedes when I noticed this guy was swimming pretty close behind me, Mercedes had a worrying facial expression and began to swim away. I started to follow, then all of sudden I felt something grab my legs, I automatically thought ahhhhh JAWS but no, it was just this creep ‘pretending’ to accidentally swim into me then slide his hands on my hips and stomach…What the fuck is going on?!!! I turned around shocked and Mercedes grabbed me and we started to swim away.  This guy didn’t even give up, he swam to me again! At this point I couldn’t even touch the ground and I felt so uncomfortable that I thought I was going to drown, especially with all the waves! Luckily I had Mercedes to save me! We then saw two girls next to us who were closer to Jaws, so we used the opportunity to swim back to shore. He had then chosen not follow us, but settle for the two other girls.

Honestly what the hell?! Who actually does that! He never said a word to us, just tried to grab us, thank God we got away otherwise I don’t know what he would have done!

I just don’t understand, I mean fair enough if you are at a club and a guy gets too touchy feely with you and you say your not interested and he goes away, but for someone to prey on you in the sea! It’s now got me scared.

It’s not just sea creatures under you, watch out for human jaws!

Has anything like this ever happened to you?

Love Saby

The night I freaked out

I was planning on writing a blog post on ‘Why are some people so fucking fickle?’ but other stuff has happened this evening, so I thought I would write about this instead. Plus I’m sure this will entertain you.

Bit of background Info – I am currently living in Valencia whilst I do a 3 month internship at a digital communications company. I love it! This past week my flatmate has been away, so I have been taking full advantage of the apartment, walking around in my underwear singing and dancing…that sort of thing.

Anyways, I was just about to go and grab my towel as I needed a shower after my cheer workout (yes I’m a cheerleader) when I saw a LIZARD, a white lizard. I don’t think I’ve ever freaked out so much. I had to call my mum on Skype so she would sort me out! Christ, how embarrassing! Even I’m cringing at myself. You know the scenes in Tom and Jerry when the woman jumps on a chair each time she sees Jerry, well that was me…standing on a table in the room next door screaming. Seriously who am I?! An absolute pussy, that’s who I am!

The fact is I would consider myself as a brave person, now….not so much.

My thought at the time was – If I was at a camp/farm fair enough, in my room? No way!

So now, I’m going to have a lovely sleep on the sofa! May even pray for the lizard to leave my room – yes I know they are harmless but I’m still too much of a wimp!

Who knew I was scared of lizards!? What are your fears?

Love Saby